Today is Mother’s Day and I am so thankful to have had the experience of becoming a mother almost 16 years ago. It is one of the most treasured responsibilities and joys in my life. When God blessed me with a daughter, I couldn’t have been more thrilled. Not that boys aren’t cool (as my sister, Sandy, would attest to since she has 3) but God knew what he was doing when he gave me a daughter. I am the oldest of 4 girls and what in the world would I have known about raising a boy….I guess I would have learned.
The last 16 years have been filled with so many great memories – first steps, lost teeth, lots of singing, first attempts at songwriting, trips to camps, pageants, wonderful love notes, sports events, school science projects, sports injuries, baptism, cooking together, traveling together, shopping for fancy dresses, learning to drive, snuggle time, important talks and so much more. Of course, we aren’t perfect by any means and there have been many life lessons and “teaching moments” along the way that have caused me to spend much time in prayer. Thank God for prayer and thank God that He is God! I look forward to Mother’s Day each year but that hasn’t always been the case.
Before becoming Mom to Mary Katherine, I had the sad experience of losing a child through miscarriage. Mother’s Day can be a wonderfully joyous time for many people but it can also be bittersweet or even down right dreadful depending on someone’s life experience. There was a period in my life when I dreaded, even hated Mother’s Day because my relationship with my own mother was not good at all. Mother’s Day brought up painful memories and feelings of emptiness. My mother is no longer living and has been gone for a number of years. It wasn’t until some time after her death that I really found healing and was able to forgive. It doesn’t change the memories that I have but I don’t let those things from the past define who I am now. With God’s help, I am more committed to being the best Mom that I can be to my daughter.
As many of you can probably appreciate, a mother can come in many different forms. There are step-moms, mother-in-laws, grandmothers, aunts, and even adopted mothers that just take you under their wing as their own. I have a step-mom that came into our lives when I was still in high school. She doesn’t have any biological children of her own and at the age of 30 she took on 4 daughters (me and my sisters) when she married my dad. As I look back now I think she must have been crazy! Or just crazy in love with my dad and over the years I have come to love, appreciate, and value her. It’s amazing how our view points on life, love, and relationships change as we get older and begin having our own families. My parents have been together 32 years and now she is Mamaw to 10 grandkids that she loves very much.
So…as you celebrate or walk through this Mother’s Day, be thankful for the women in your life that fill the role of Mother whether they are biologically related to you or not. Have a wonderfully, fun day with those ladies and make some great memories! But remember those that may be struggling with this day because of wayward children, the inability to have their own natural children, the loss of a child, the less than desirable relationship with their mom, or maybe the loss of their mom. Consider reaching out to give an encouraging word or maybe offer to spend time doing something with that person to help ease the pain or feelings that this day may bring.
Above all…show Love.
John 13:34: But I am giving you a new command. You must love each other, just as I have loved you.
Romans 12;10: Love each other as brothers and sister and honor others more than you do yourself.
I John 4:19: We love because God loved us first.
Matthew 23:39: The second most important commandment is like this one; And it is, “Love others as much as you love yourself.”